Half full or half empty?

Suppose you have a glass half filled with water. Would you say the glass is half full or half empty?

I still remember this question which was asked in our Introduction to Psychology just last year. I answered with a half full. The class was then split into two. Well, Professor Booth said that no one answered wrong. It’s just a matter of one’s observation, or point of view. He said that from both perspectives, the amount of water in the glass is the same. The only difference between each view of the glass is in one’s observation.

But why am I telling this? This past few days, everyone’s asking me, “Kung nahihirapan ka na, bakit nagtitiis ka pa?”

Well, because I love him and so he does. Thus, every single thing between us such as friendster comments, texts, chats, short time being together is enough for me in keeping the relationship we have in spite of the distance and tough communication. The glass serves as a metaphor for our relationship and water represents the good things in it. So, seeing the glass as half empty means dwelling on the lack in us while seeing it as half full means focusing more on the good things. I may sound martyr and yeah, it’s up to you to call me one.

But for me, it is always better to be optimistic than pessimistic. If you would like a full glass of water, then observing a glass as already "half full" would bring a realization of what you already have and would allow one to facilitate opportunities to fill the rest of the glass. Looking at the glass and finding joy in that makes it half filled already. But if you observe the glass to be "half empty", then you probably doesn't realize what you already have which may facilitates the losing of what you already have.

Got my point?! But let me clear this one, I am not against anyone’s opinion. Each of us is entitled to have their own and this is mine.

With Love,
Ariane

When pride gets in

I just want to share a two-sided story of a break up. This is the result of letting pride to take over in between misunderstanding.

Girl: I broke up with the guy I love so much last night. As days pass by, everything between us just becomes harder to bear until I became too paranoid and thought that he don’t love me anymore. And so, I thought that breaking up with him would be better but f*ck! It’s really overwhelming to lose him. I wanna have him back but I just don’t know how since I the one who am wanted this.

Boy: My girl broke up with me last night. She told me she’s not happy with me anymore. Thinking that continuing the relationship we have would just hurt her more, I didn’t attempt to fight the urge of keeping her anymore but I really do love her and its killing me. I really don’t want her to go but I have to set her free to prove that I love her and all I want is her happiness. Maybe this is the best for us.

With Love, Ariane

Why does it hurts so?

I don't cry a lot about you anymore but that doesn't mean I don't miss you like hell.

If I take it back to the beginning, I’d probably find no resolve strong enough to pacify me which is why I choose not to waste attempts on both. I’d stretch my memory only to the extent of knowing it's been quite a while since we separate schools. Anything beyond that is exhausting all over those 1, 2, or 3 weeks still sit at the back of my head, naturally following orders to steer clear from my everyday sight.

Rough days have been rare, but they suck. Sadly, every day’s been just that since we separate ways, and it doubles the pain that you really can't push me to be strong anymore. Before, it would've been one-two-three easy. Smiles lang, kulitan or I love yous, THEN DONE. As simple as that. It still baffles me that you had the quickest remedy to all things that suck, and that you had all ways to make me smile and feel better. I know it weren't the smiles, or the kulitan or anything else. It was you that made me believe that everything's going to be okay.

I know you still think of me once in a while, and if you haven't realized, my heart has a phenomenal empty space because of you. No, scratch that. Not you but the lack of you in my life.

I love you. The only comfort I have right now knows that you'll never forget about that, not even for a single day. Wherever you are, and whatever it is you're doing, my heart goes out to you like it always has, without a doubt.

With Love,
Ariane

Open and be close with others

It’s been two weeks since the second semester of our sophomore life had started. Same as the number of weeks we are all frustrated for being distributed in all the blocks in our level while others are in other universities now. Each and every one of us still finds it hard to adjust to our new environment and accept that what happened leads us to different lives now. But we can do nothing about it anymore. We have to accept the fact that no matter how much we cry or reminisce the past months of our lives, we can no longer have exactly the same class we had before and now in a new block with most faces are strangers to us.

What else can we do? The key is to remember they have already established a “society” and we have to find a way in. Pursue others, and don’t give up. Reach out and chat with people next to us in class. What is the worst that could happen? We are new, people will most likely forget to invite or include us, even if they want to. It just isn’t a habit for them to do things with us, so they probably won’t think about us. As well as we don’t think about them. But we have to remember, relationships take time. And it’s the best to befriend with everybody in the class like we had before in our block.

Well, don’t take it personally if others don’t reach out; everybody is busy and people have agendas. Now, how do we go about forming these relationships? Rule of thumb: never be afraid to jump in. Joining conversations will help us find potential friends who share the same interests. Even though our instincts tell us to withdraw, it is critical to fight them if we really want to break the mold.

After a couple days, I know we can already activate the main ingredient for success. People are attracted to confidence and happiness. My secret is they don’t have to know if it is genuine. If we look and act confident they won’t know the difference. No one wants to know if it is legit, but they probably will want to know us if we are quick to laugh and consistently positive. The most important thing is not to lose sight of who we are. It will take a while to feel comfortable and actually meet people, but I know that eventually the “fake” confidence won’t be an act anymore.

For those of you who consider this blog irrelevant may be thinking “Well, they’re new, who cares? This has nothing to do with me,” are probably comfortable with your established lifestyle and aren’t exactly looking for a change. Honestly, that is true: you can choose to ignore them … or you could give them a chance. You don’t have to make any commitment just by being nice to them. And who knows? We could find our new social group.

With Love,
Ariane

First day

Mixed Emotions.

There was excitement, at seeing my former blockmates after the sembreak. There was sadness, at the first of many lasts over the past months. There was nervousness, over meeting new blockmates, professors, and new subjects. There was happiness, at finally being in second semester of sophomore life. More over, there was fear of how would the changes will affect each and everyone’s life. It was really an anxious day.

Okay, this is how the first day went through.

Deep breath. I forced myself to keep my head up and braced myself for the plunge. I slowly pushed, opened the door of my room and I am overwhelmed with what’s before me.

The day started with a great smile seeing my Baby waiting for me at the FCM. Wanting to make myself believe that the next days would be the same. We slightly talked about what will going to happen next.

After accompanying Kristian of getting his records for transferring to other school – it was really a hard time fixing the things he needed as we part our school ways – it’s now my turn to assess myself. I left him at CB playing DOTA with the former Js.

Clutching my bag close to my chest, I consult the bulletin board for the schedules that begins to quiver in my nervous hands. I wander through the hallway and finally enter my first classroom with Cha. Breathe. Remember to breath. In, out. With all the courage I can muster, I stepped inside: the new baby girl.
As the day went on, I kept asking myself, “What have I gotten myself into?!” Coming from J where I’m already comfortable with and got so much used to be with, there was no way to be prepared for the culture shock.

It was funny how I keep on looking around the classroom, still hoping that I would see exactly the same faces again. Still in denial that things are different now. OMG, I really want to lean my head into my desk and sob at that very moment.

If you can’t relate to my situation in any way, someday you will. Change is inevitable, at some point in your life you will be the “newbie” surrounded by unfamiliar faces and situations.

After the class, we went straight to Hot Dish Grille with my sessionmates. Yeah, not blockmates anymore. [Sigh] We talked about how our days started, our fears and hopes about the next days. We all reminisced the things that passed within the last semesters. We've really forged something special there, and there's more to come. I'm excited to see how it all unfolds.

With Love,
Ariane

FF

We have been friends since the past semesters, but this semester may change everything. Together we laugh at the most stupid shits when we have fun, bullying one another, endure boys/girls chasing us(haha), trading snacks during breaks, copying each otherst home works, getting ideas from each others as lecture goes, gossiping about our latest crushes and so on and so forth. We have shared a lot of fun memories and now face an exciting but daunting transition from first semester to the second of our sophomore life .Even though we have both changed in many ways and have had arguments of all sizes, no matter what has happened, we all want to remain friends.

All this time, we have had the privilege of attending the same subjects and courses and almost had the same class schedule. And now, as we enter separate classrooms, schools and even courses we all have decided that the only way to remain closely connected is by having regular activities we do together. Our plan to continue developing our friendship and help support each other, includes set times where we can share time and continue to create memories. For J to remain close friends, we have decided to meet up during free time, birthdays, drinking sessions where we spend the day together getting pampered and catching up on the latest school gossip. Haha

All our plans may sound like a hassle, but we feel our friendship is worth it. No, it is not going to be as easy as it has been in the past, considering we always went to school altogether, but it’s a challenge we feel that it is important to stay friends, and remain close.

Friends Forever!

With Love,
Ariane

You can't stand me, so sit down

Until now, I still don’t know why an old friend back in high school keeps on talking sh*ts about me when I know I’m not doing anything to make her feel that way. I’ve been a good friend with her. I didn’t do something like talking behind her back just like what she’s doing with me.

But I guess I should stop looking for answers. I’m tired of chasing everyone and trying to fix everything but it doesn’t mean I gave up. I just realized that I don’t need bullsh*t peers and the drama they always bring. The problem with them is that they see my glory but they don’t know my story.

Why do I have to give them the satisfaction of letting them get the best in me when I clearly know that they envy me and want to be like me? Maybe I should feel bad that they are very pitiful to want to live their lives through my downfalls. Pathetic haters are too weak to follow their own dreams and always try to find any possible way to discourage mine. Well, it’s a natural thing. I should not break down. Instead, thank them for justifying that I have a happy and beautiful life.

Therefore, friends, whenever you make mark, expect you to attract haters. That’s why you have to be careful whom you share your blessings and dream with because some folks can’t handle seeing you blessed. Know who you are and know who your TRUE friends are.

With Love,
Ariane