Open and be close with others

It’s been two weeks since the second semester of our sophomore life had started. Same as the number of weeks we are all frustrated for being distributed in all the blocks in our level while others are in other universities now. Each and every one of us still finds it hard to adjust to our new environment and accept that what happened leads us to different lives now. But we can do nothing about it anymore. We have to accept the fact that no matter how much we cry or reminisce the past months of our lives, we can no longer have exactly the same class we had before and now in a new block with most faces are strangers to us.

What else can we do? The key is to remember they have already established a “society” and we have to find a way in. Pursue others, and don’t give up. Reach out and chat with people next to us in class. What is the worst that could happen? We are new, people will most likely forget to invite or include us, even if they want to. It just isn’t a habit for them to do things with us, so they probably won’t think about us. As well as we don’t think about them. But we have to remember, relationships take time. And it’s the best to befriend with everybody in the class like we had before in our block.

Well, don’t take it personally if others don’t reach out; everybody is busy and people have agendas. Now, how do we go about forming these relationships? Rule of thumb: never be afraid to jump in. Joining conversations will help us find potential friends who share the same interests. Even though our instincts tell us to withdraw, it is critical to fight them if we really want to break the mold.

After a couple days, I know we can already activate the main ingredient for success. People are attracted to confidence and happiness. My secret is they don’t have to know if it is genuine. If we look and act confident they won’t know the difference. No one wants to know if it is legit, but they probably will want to know us if we are quick to laugh and consistently positive. The most important thing is not to lose sight of who we are. It will take a while to feel comfortable and actually meet people, but I know that eventually the “fake” confidence won’t be an act anymore.

For those of you who consider this blog irrelevant may be thinking “Well, they’re new, who cares? This has nothing to do with me,” are probably comfortable with your established lifestyle and aren’t exactly looking for a change. Honestly, that is true: you can choose to ignore them … or you could give them a chance. You don’t have to make any commitment just by being nice to them. And who knows? We could find our new social group.

With Love,
Ariane